ChrIstmas CD Release!

I know, I know…we’ve just gotten past Labor Day and you’re hearing from me about Christmas? But I want you to be in the know…I’m so excited to share with you that my friends and I have just finished in the studio and my new CD “Simply Christmas” will soon be here!
Middle Georgia ladies, please help me celebrate with a Ladies Night Out and CD Release on Thursday, October 27 at the beautiful, new Pierce Chapel at Wesleyan College. Cost is $20 and includes music, merriment, munchies and your very own CD!  Register here: Christmas with Connie & Friends! For my friends far away, the CD will be available soon at iTunes and on my website, conniecarey.com.

christmas with Connie & FriendsMy talented friends, Dan Darden (guitar/vocals), Katie Trotter (violin), Sandra Chandler (piano) and Bruce Mercer (vocals) have joined me for some of the very best Christmas classics in a fresh new way and I’ll be sharing tastes from our rehearsals and studio time in the weeks to come.
In the meantime, here’s a little peek into a fun rehearsal of “Sleigh Ride” with dear college friend Sandra Chandler.  Enjoy!

 

And don’t forget to register…it wouldn’t be the same without you!

Four Practical Steps for When Devastation Hits

We all face times in our lives when things are so intensely difficult, it’s almost too much to bear.

Whether it’s the loss of a job, a loved one or an unexpected devastation that shakes you to your core (like the senseless tragedy in Orlando this past week or the tragic death of the two year old child at Disney), the pain is sharp, deep and very real.  The problem is that most of us have little to no training in how to deal with these challenging times or this level of pain – emotionally, intellectually or spiritually.

In this video I share my perspective on what it takes to turn our tears into triumph.  It’s a lesson I learned not overnight, but slowly in the aftermath of my father’s suicide.  While your particular situation might be different, the principles dealing with sudden and devastating loss are the same.

If you or someone you love is experiencing one of those deeply challenging times, I invite you to watch this video and share with others.  Even if you’re not in a particularly rough time, you know those times are coming.  It’s been said we are constantly in a storm, just coming out of a storm, or about to go into one.  And I want you to be ready the next time one comes along.

If you find this helpful and would like to learn more, (for example, what to say and what not to say to someone who is grieving, how to replace the “if onlys” with truth, confidence and hope, and how to fight back against despair and depression), my book Falling Up, is available on Amazon.

"Falling UP"“A powerful resource for anyone facing grief and loss.  Connie’s story will bring encouragement and healing through practical steps and solid Biblical truths.  A must-read and must -share!”  SANDRA STANLEY, NORTHPOINT COMMUNITY CHURCH, ATLANTA

 

With God on our side, we can do more than just survive grief and loss.  We can make it to the other side…stronger in our broken places.

Love,

Connie

D – Day Thoughts

Our visit to the museum at The Eagle’s Nest in Berchtesgaden a couple of years ago transported me to the year 1944-1945 when the world was at war and the powers of good and evil hung precariously in the balance. The museum pulls no punches, graphically showing the sinister and devastating impact on people and history by Adolph Hitler and his deranged cronies. Photograph after photograph chronicle the human misery incurred from the rise to the fall of the Third Reich. The early photographs of Hitler and his ascent to power show tens of thousands of ordinary smiling people, saluting him with unabashed patriotism and admiration. We kept asking ourselves how that could happen, especially after they had to have known of the terrible atrocities committed at the numerous concentration camps spread throughout Germany and Austria. The photographs taken at the end of the war of those who once smiled and saluted now showed the despair of disillusionment.

Beneath Hitler’s beautiful resort compound were carved many eerie tunnels, such as the one below, connecting each structure.

Hitler's bunker

Hitler’s bunker

What a difference a year made (1944-1945).

" The Fuhrer Has Fallen"

The year before at this time we walked on the Normandy landing beaches. We saw the ensignia below not only at the Normandy museums, but also gratefully displayed in the towns’ restaurants and taverns. This D-Day, we find ourselves in Berchtesgarden, and see the ensignia again.

101st Airborne Division.

101st Airborne Division.

 

The 101st paratroopers who jumped into Normandy on D-Day, June 6, 1944 also liberated Berchtesgaden and seized Hitler’s mountaintop retreat, a symbol of his power, less than a year later.

(As an aside, that ensignia hangs on my den wall as my husband John had the privilege of serving with the same division in Vietnam.)

On this day, we are grateful for all those who participated in ending the terror and misery inflicted upon mankind by Hitler and his Third Reich.

The brave young soldiers who fought that day are few and fading.

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But the memory of their heroism need not fade.  If you are fortunate to know one of them, thank them.  Listen to their stories.  But above all, thank them.

How to Be Amazing with Absolutely No Talent

I sometimes hear folks say if they only had more talent, they’d be more successful.  Talent Schmalent.  Here are seven simple things you can do today to be more effective, to be of greater benefit to others and be considered way cool by your peers.  And they don’t require a lick of talent to do them.

  1.  Show up.  That’s right, just be there. thank_you_0706_clouds_being_thereFrom the most important business meetings to gatherings with friends, if you said you’d be there, be there. Don’t be that person who, when asked, “Gosh, we were worried.  Where were you?”, shrugs nonchalantly with, “Oh, yeah… sump’m came up.”
  2. Be on time.  Typing with head hanging low, I’m sharing with you what I wish I’d learned earlier: tardiness communicates a lack of respect for others.  (Thankfully, and with intentionality, I’ve made progress here.) When you’re on time, you appear more ready for the task and convey consideration for others’ time.
  3. Check your body language.  Maybe you’re in a great mood and feeling love toward all with whom you come in contact.  Great! But if your face is scowling, they catch a completely different vibe. The old saying is true: “If you’re happy, tell your face.”  Are your arms folded in a closed manner while someone talks with you?  Looking elsewhere? Sighing, with an “I wish I was anywhere but here” look? Listen with your eyes as well as your ears.  Look at the person talking with you.   Nod occasionally to let them know you’re tracking.  Resist folding your arms or putting them on your hips.  These stances are unapproachable, authoritarian and make it appear that we think we’re a “know-it-all”.    Open your body to open conversation. And here’s a novel idea: put your cell phone away during meetings or lunch dates.  Unless it’s the doc with your biopsy results, don’t answer.  Don’t even look at it. Wow, how weird would that be?  Pretty weird, but here’s the thing:  Your friend, loved one or co-worker will walk away feeling incredibly valued. It will set you apart in this “Sorry, I gotta take this call” world.
  4. Go the extra mile. When our grandchildren visit, we go to the petting zoo.
    Ella with 8 yr. old miniature alligator.

    Ella with 8 yr. old miniature alligator.

    It’s fun and educational!

    Stephen with um, something green.

    Stephen with um, something green.

    I could sit back and watch, but I go the extra mile.  I want our time together to be fun and memorable.
    IMG_0144_1024But I do draw the line somewhere. The shot below was taken with a zoom from 40 feet.  And frankly, even that’s waaaaaay too close. Forget fun and memorable.  I’ll be in the car, kids.thumb_IMG_2817_1024That’s Daisy, the resident python.  Isn’t it precious how she wraps herself around and plays peek-a-boo?  (I’m gonna have nightmares.)  But I digress. The point is, doing a little more than required sets you apart by showing you care.

  5. Be coachable.  You know a lot, you smart friend, you!  But you don’t know everything.  When someone takes the time to share a potential area for growth in your life, don’t lose the opportunity by being defensive or closed to the idea.  Even if it’s not presented in the best way, recognize that there may be a grain of truth to consider.  “Feedback is the breakfast of champions.”
  6. Be prepared.  Do the homework necessary to be ready for class, meetings, rehearsals, etc. Don’t make it so others have to catch you up because you didn’t read the article, look over the minutes, acquaint yourself with the proposed guidelines or practice your part of the music.  When you’re prepared, others appreciate it and the project can move forward in a timely manner.
  7. Have a good attitude.  You may not be the most brilliantly gifted at what you do, but when you are generally cheerful, grateful and aim to please, friends and customers alike want to be around that!    thumb_IMG_4255_1024Talent is nice, but whether you have it or not, you can still be a star by using these seven simple things to establish trust, gain greater influence, and be amazing!

I’d love to hear from you!  What else would you add to the list?

 

 

How Letting Something Go Gives You Something Better

My friend Jayne recently discovered a spot on her leg.  What began as a spot was discovered to be a rare, aggressive cancer and within weeks she heard the doctor say, “The leg needs to go.”  Our town’s premier wedding planner was stunned at the news.  Jayne is a vivacious, positive thinking trooper, but this was a devastating blow.  The doctor admonished her, saying, “You will die if you don’t have the leg removed.  And soon.  Now don’t you be stubborn about this.”  “Stubborn?!” she exclaimed in her beautiful, way southern drawl. “I’ve got livin’ to do!  Set the date!”

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My friend David tells the story of having his second leg amputated.  Due to diabetes complications, the first had been removed years earlier.  Then the fevers came and the second leg burned hot with infection.  There was much more David wanted to do in life. But in his thinking, to be completely without legs and stuck in a wheelchair would make him an invalid…of little use to God or others.

So for seven years, he held on to his second leg.  Then sitting in a fast food drive-through line one day, David came to a place of surrender…a place of letting go.  “I was exhausted from recurring fevers caused by the infected leg”, he explains.  The encounter with God he had was undeniable.  He heard God ask,”Why are you holding on to a seven-year anchor?”  Suddenly he wasn’t afraid.  Immediately he made the phone call to set up the surgery.

Sometimes we need to let go of something so we can move to the next good thing. 

Maybe your spouse has left and you never thought you’d be here, starting over.  Maybe budget cuts at your company have caused you to lose your job.  Maybe a dear loved one has died and your life is suddenly far different than you imagined it would be.

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I don’t know what you’re facing, friend, but it seems to me in each of life’s storms, there is a common denominator…something we need to let go of.  And though our circumstances may be different from one another, the thing we need to let go of is the same. What is it? Control.

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As you relinquish your sweaty death grip on your circumstances, something beautiful begins to happen.  You are freed from the burden of trying to be God!  You realize that God is doing something in your storm…something you may not fully understand.  And you begin to sense that He’s at work for a good purpose in your life – and in the lives of others. It may not be the way you wanted your prayer answered, but there’s real comfort when you remember that His great love for you was settled on the cross.  And because of that great love, He’s working for His glory and your ultimate good.
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It was a Wednesday night at choir practice.  Hearts were heavy with the knowledge that David had lost his second leg that morning.  As the choir director, I asked, “Has anyone spoken with David today?”  A hand went up. “How is he?”  I’ll never forget the sagging shoulders, the downcast expressions as I scanned the room.  Everyone there loved David. The choir member replied, “He’s busy deciding how tall he wants to be.”

A gasp…then a collective hilarious belly laugh from everyone in the choir.

The evening of Jayne’s surgery, I dialed her number with a heavy heart.  “How are you, friend?” My beautiful, spunky, life-loving friend’s response? “I’m cancer-free! I traded my broken-down leg for LIFE, and before you know it, I’ll have a new, state of the art leg!” If I was stunned at the news of Jayne’s leg amputation, I was even more stunned at her victorious insight. Turns out the wedding director has a very important wedding coming up…that of her niece…and she is NOT going to miss it!

David and Jayne are two people that recognized it was time to let something go so they could move forward into something better. As David and Jayne each live life in their own bright, winsome ways, people walk away with this thought: “If someone with that kind of devastating loss can find hilarious joy in this life, maybe joy is possible for me, too.” They are making an impact for great encouragement in the lives of all who come in contact with them.

When David and Jayne relinquished control, they each lost a leg.  But they gained LIFE. And ministries that reach all kinds of people in all types of situations.

David and Jayne

David Duncan and Jayne Smith

I’d love to hear from you: What are you holding on to that God may want to exchange for something bigger?

Copyright 2016. Connie Carey is the author of “Falling UP”, a resource for grief and loss. You can reach her at http://www.conniecarey.com.